Elizabeth wrote this post. (No, it being Olivia's birthday has nothing to do with any of this, but how could I not say it?) And I love what she wrote about wind people. I realized lately that my parents are great wind people. It was something I could only recognize once I was associated with someone who was not. But I want this to be a happy post, so no talk about that!
In middle school, I woke up by myself and got dressed and made it to the bus stop on time.
I chose to study extra Spanish instead of higher level math in high school.
I majored in Home Ec because its something I have loved since I was a child. I also got my teaching degree.
One summer home from college, after a disastrous few months as a nanny, my mom helped me pack up all of my things, and buy a plane ticket back to Utah so I could spend the remainder of my break there, with my friends.
Early in my career, I researched and test drove and bought my own car.
These are a very few examples of how my parents have truly let me be my own person. As long as I wasn't committing any crimes, or doing anything immoral, they have always been the wind in my sails. They listen (and I think that's the key word here) and give advice when asked. They guide me, they never force me. And they are always very positive of my choices, even if it wouldn't be their first choice.
I never realized that was uncommon. But now that I do, I really hope I can be that for Olivia and for all my kids. As a parent I see how very difficult it can be to give independence to your child. I see that it can be hard not to try and live through them. Hard not to try and make them good at things you failed at. Hard not to try and make them good at things you're good at. Hard to just let them be them.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm lucky!